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Girl-Power Movies to look forward to in 2018

Hey ladies!!!…  and gents 🙂

If you’re a movie fan like myself and especially enjoy a good girl-empowering/female-hero movie then this post is for you.  I’ve compiled a list of must-see films to look out for this year, in no particular order.  Here goes:

1. Oceans 8

An all female-led heist comedy, a sequel in the Oceans 11 movie series where it turns out George Clooney has a con sister!  Do we need any excuse to see 8 gorgeous women execute the con of the century stealing fabulous jewellery at a fashion forward Met Gala! Set a girls night reminder right here 😉  Starring Sandra Bullock, Cate Blanchett, Anne Hathaway, Rihanna and more.

2.  Proud Mary

I just love Taraji P Henson and I can’t wait to see her take the lead in this action thriller.  The film follows an assassin who must look after a young teenaged boy after a hit job goes wrong.

3.  Mamma Mia 2

She sequel of Mamma Mia 1, one of the best musicals I’ve seen featuring some of the greatest hits from Abba.  Of course it made the list.  Starring Amanda Seyfried.

4.  Tully

If you’re a mom then this comedy drama is sure to make you feel less “alone”.  Starring Charlize Theron.

5.  Acrimony

A faithful wife (Taraji P. Henson) tired of standing by her devious husband (Lyriq Bent) is enraged when it becomes clear she has been betrayed.  Brace yourself for Tyler Perry’s latest drama, Acrimony.

6.  Breaking In

Gabrielle Union in action, protecting her kids at all cost when 4 men break into her late dad’s house in search of something.

7.  Annihilation

Science fantasy/Horror starring Natalie Portman. A biologist signs up for a dangerous, secret expedition where the laws of nature don’t apply.

8.  Tomb Raider

Lara Croft, the fiercely independent daughter of a missing adventurer, must push herself beyond her limits when she finds herself on the island where her father disappeared.

9.  Red Sparrow

I figure this is 2018’s take on Black Widow starring Jennifer Lawrence.  If you too are into action, intelligence, spy type movies then this one is for you.

 

Feel free to ad some more in the comments below.  Would love to hear from you.

References include youtube.com, Wikipedia, imdb.com

Cheers

Nadine

 

 

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Pleats to please

I love flexible wardrobe pieces.  It makes life so much easier, giving you alot more options for your money and available closet space. Like the pleated skirt for example which could easily take you from day to night. Dress it down with sneakers, loafers or strappy flats and a casual tshirt or dress it up with heels and a cropped top or sexy bodysuit. From morning market to queen of the dance floor.

Another big plus is the loose fit around my “problem areas” especially after the holiday eating where nothing seems to fit quite well.  This outfit covered just the right places – I am pleased.  Hence the title… pleats to please 😉

Here are different ways to style the pleated skirt trend you’ve been seeing everywhere 🙂
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Email us at info@kitibella.co.za for our current range of pleated skirts available.

Till next time

Nadine

Live in your truth

So many of us, to some degree, live in the shadows and expectations of others whether we’re aware of it or not.  It only takes one person to present a “fact” and the rest of us accept it as our truth. e.g. Intellect and income assumed by one’s education, beauty defined by one’s weight or the colour of one’s skin. The list goes on.  A current reality was presented and the rest of us accepted it as a truth going forward.  At some point we gave in and started living our lives based on what others believe to be true. The problem with this is that we start measuring our success in life according to the world’s definition of success.  I say it’s time to challenge the norm.  To change the tune, break through our shells and raise the bar on how we see things and how we see ourselves.  It’s time to separate the facts from the truth.  It’s time to live in your truth.

~ Rom 12:2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. ~

1. The fact is your current resume. The truth is you’re so much more than those 3 pages.

It’s easy to be placed in a box.  A category.  A class.  But that’s not who you are and you certainly should not allow yourself to be stereotyped or criticized for not conforming.  Nowadays, for this very reason, it’s difficult to have meaningful, long-lasting, authentic relationships with anyone.  We are too quick to judge and place expectations on others.  So much so that it becomes difficult to be ourselves, to say how we really feel, what we really think and be who we really are.  It’s time for us to embrace our truth and live in it.  Be the unique you and the right people will love you for it.

~ Psalm 139:14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well ~

2.  The fact is you’re not completely where you want to be in life. The truth is that you have so much more to be grateful for than you realize.

Living in your truth requires you to acknowledge and accept who you are at this moment.  Love your life irrespectively. I often feel like I should’ve been further along in life.  As though the mistakes I’ve made held me back and I have this anger and frustration deep down.  I deal with it, move on, and somehow the emotion comes back again.  The only way to overcome this feeling, I’ve come to learn, is genuine gratitude.  Think of everything in your life that adds to your happiness.  Every blessing, moment or victory big or small.  Reflect on it until it makes you smile, literally.  Seriously, try it.  We need to do this at least once a day.  Because that smile right there, is God’s will for your life.

~ 1 Thes 5:18 give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus ~

3.  The fact is that people in our life are able to affect the way we feel, think and react. The truth is that we have the power and the decision is ultimately ours.

For many of us, sadly, 1 nasty comment or action from a co-worker can upset your day and change your mood completely.  The fact is, that’s their opinion.  What is your truth?  What they say or do is on them, how you react is on you.  Take back control.  Make a conscious decision that nothing will spoil your day.

~ Prov 25:28 Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control. ~

4.  The fact is that you don’t have much money in your name. The truth is that you are 1 decision away from changing your financial future.

You have everything you need inside of you just waiting to be cultivated in order to change your reality.  The most common stepping stones are fear and doubt.  It’s never too late to change your life.  Be bold and believe that you can.

~ Phil 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. ~

5.  The fact is that you sometimes feel weak. The truth is that you’re much stronger than you give yourself credit for.

Think of the last time you felt hopeless but made it through somehow.  Now remember, the higher the mountain the harder the climb.  Sometimes tougher times means that you’re making progress.  During a work-out the real work starts when the muscles start to burn.  The burn produces the results.  In addition, the more difficult the challenge becomes the greater the lesson and ultimately the stronger the person.  So yes, you are meant to feel weak sometimes.  You are meant to face mountains.  You are meant to develop, learn, grow and ultimately conquer.  Keep climbing.  And soon you’ll discover that the higher the mountain, the better the view.

~ 2 Cor 12:10 …for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong. ~

Remember people will always talk, criticize and condemn. But until they’ve walked in your shoes they will never understand.  As hard as it may be, get over it.  I give you permission to care less about what the critics and pessimists think.  Going into 2018, do not live your life in anyone’s shadow but the One who formed you and had He’s eyes on you from day 1.  It’s time to live your truth.  It’s time to pave the way for your purpose.

Welcome to 2018!  My God bless you and may you have an abundance of everything that brings true happiness.

Nadine

Denim, Diamonds & Divas (Part 2)

The “out of office” closet essential every diva needs – denims & on-trend accessories!  It’s as simple as putting a few closet basics together with pretty flats or a sexy pair of heels.  For those still on leave, have fun and be safe!  To the rest of us, only 4 more sleeps until the weekend 😉

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About the look:

  1. White camisole by Kelso, Edgars
  2. Denim Jacket by Zara
  3. Black string diamond choker by Mrp fashion.
  4. Laced up leggings by Kitibella (To order email info@kitibella.co.za)
  5. Heels by Tom Ford (Similar can be ordered via email info@kitibella.co.za)

 

Denim, Diamonds & Divas (Part 1)

Hey everyone, guess what…

My sister’s having a baby! 🙂

I’m so excited you’d swear the kid’s mine.  Well… since I can’t have the baby for myself, I took ownership of the next best thing – The Shower!  My mom & I decided to keep it casual with a Denim & Diamond theme.  It was all hands on deck from family & friends who pitched in & helped with preparations incl her mom-in-law who will be a granny for the very first time!  Today marks exactly 6 weeks before baby Mason is due and we can’t wait to meet the little guy.  Here are some photos of the day…

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Mom-to-be, Nicole Van Jaarsveld

In keeping with the theme, we wrapped every day tin cans in denim fabric, white lace & raffia ribbon which were used to serve snacks & sweets.  A nappy cake wrapped in denim, bling and shades of blue blankets with baby toiletries.  Cupcakes & other treats in shades of blue.

And this is Mason asleep in his crib.  Well at least until it was time for desert 😉

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Baby-in-a-crib Fruit Buffet

Thank you to all our friends & family for making the day so special!

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My sister & I

To be contd.

 

 

What women want

This one’s for the guys…

It’s no secret that women are viewed as the more “complicated” sex and that over 2000 years later, men are still battling to “figure us out”.  For some time now I wanted to write a post that would help men understand us better.  I started out by sending a broadcast message asking ladies to name the top 2 things they felt would significantly improve their relationship.  As I suspected, the responses were quite similar and proved that we’re really not that complicated after all.  And so gents, I summarized the results in only 8 simple points:

1. Spend time with her

Many men confuse sharing space with spending quality time.  Quality time is the time set aside for paying full and undivided attention to her.  Whether you’re just sitting on a bench talking or out on a dinner date, it’s only quality time when you’re fully present in the moment without distractions.  So it may be a good idea to ignore your cell phone during that time.  About a month after my husband and I started dating I decided to end the relationship.  When he asked me why, I simply said we don’t spend enough time together. This took him by surprise because we saw each other quite regularly.  You see, she needs to feel a connection that only develops when you spend quality time alone with her. Tip: 30 minutes of being fully present in conversation beats the 30 roses you bring home from work by a long shot. Of all the things you could give her, your time outweighs them all.

2. Affirm her

Whether she’ll admit it or not, she cares a lot about what you think.  She can catch the attention of a thousand friends or strangers with that sexy new haircut or get 500 likes on her new facebook profile picture but nothing compares to an honest compliment from the one she loves.  10 brownie points for public displays of affirmation.  If you knew what your affirmation does to her confidence, you would do it every day.

3.  Don’t spy

Nothing spells “RED TAPE” more than a jealous man.  I’ve seen beautiful relationships destroyed as a result.  I can just imagine how exhausting it would be to be married to a man who constantly questions your fidelity.  Distrust, whether it’s deserved or not, will ruin a relationship faster than it takes for your woman to even consider cheating on you.  Your jealousy and insecurity is NOT cool and you’re not ready for the long term consequences.

4.  Support her

Do you know what she wants out of life?  What is important to her?  She is not just a wife, mother, cook, taxi driver and nurse at 2am when the kids catch a fever.  Every woman has dreams, aspirations and goals.  A definition of success for her life.  Some are small and others so big it may even scare you.  In todays world there are more women who earns more and/or are more educated than their partners.  Do not let this intimidate you.  She may not need you to make the dream come true for her but she most certainly needs your support.  Motivate her.  Cheer her on.  Help when you’re able to.  Understand that you are a team and chances are that you have a skill that she needs to get her to the next level.  Perhaps you’re better at research or budgeting or working with tools than she is.  Again, you are a team and if one wins then both win.  If one team member falls then the best way to finish the race is to lift them up and encourage them towards to finish line.

5.  Share the load

Help out around the house.  Cook at least once a week.  Change a diaper.  Whether she’s a 9 to 5’er or stay home mom, life becomes hectic and a woman’s ability to multitask sometimes feels like a curse when we’re stressed about whether school uniforms are clean; that long list of tasks at the office; did we get all the groceries we need; the preparations for that “thing” is weekend; why your eldest was so quiet at dinner or whether the little one had her cough syrup before she went to bed. A hundred million thoughts being flawlessly multitasked in her head…..all while having sex!  Lol.  See why I called it a curse? Jokes aside, life is hectic and all we want is to know that we are not alone in all of it.

6.  Surprise her

Women are often the ones to suggest romantic getaways, family outings, date nights and we take it upon ourselves to plan it, budget for it and execute it.  It would mean so much to her if you surprised her by taking on that role once in a while.  And an occasional surprise gift would be great which leads us to the next point…

7.  Shoes!

More specifically, Kitibella Shoes!  Lol just kidding.  Shoes are my thing and also many other women I know.  But every woman has something she enjoys spoiling herself with as a reward after a tough day, week or month.  For some it’s perfume, flowers, a new hairdo, chocolates, a spa treatment, a new dress or even a book.  If you don’t know what it is, find out!  If it’s something you cannot afford this month then plan ahead for it and make sure that when the time comes, you actually follow through.

8.  Intimacy

Intimacy is not a synonym for intercourse. This is where men sometimes miss it. Women generally experience intimacy as they talk, touch, and share their thoughts and feelings. Intimacy is normally a result of quality time. Great intimacy sets the foundation for a great sexual relationship. And the frequency of the 2 is often related. Yes I said it. If your wife isn’t too eager to have sex check the level of intimacy in your relationship. Also keep in mind my previous point about how easily we are distracted and how our minds work overtime when we’re swamped with chores. So trust me when I say there’s a magical question that can take your sex life up a notch, you know…take you to the promised land….Just 1. As simple as that! Are you ready for it? Just 1 question to ask when you wake up in the morning and get home from work: “Honey, what can I help you with?” 🙂

Ladies, if you’re still reading:

Don’t:

  • Disrespect him, especially in public
  • Make him choose between a day at the mall with you or watching the game…Helluur?
  • Expect him to read your mind.  Just say what you want
  • Nag him to talk about his feelings
  • Nag. Period.  It’s just a toilet seat, let it go.
  • Be jealous and controlling
  • Wear clothes you know are just inappropriate.  Not sure?  Ask.
  • Try to change him
  • Compare him to another man

Marriage is beautiful, if we’re not busy suffocating each other 🙂  Communicate at all times.  Forgive more and don’t be too proud to admit when you’re wrong.  If we commit daily to focus more on the positive qualities in each other we would find new reasons to fall in love all over again.

Thanks for reading and please feel free to share your thoughts below.

Till next time

Nadine

And it’s a wrap!

If you’re an average girl, like myself, then I’m guessing that right now you’re trying to get rid of the winter weight as you make your way into summer, the ever popular social season here in South Africa.  This is usually when those invitations come rolling in: weddings, cocktail parties, year end functions etc. and we’re faced with that dreadful question: “What to wear?”.

Fortunately for us, ladies, the more comfortable/loose fit is trending at the moment and we can use it to our advantage.  Anything from stylish kimonos to beautiful flowy wrap dresses which makes covering that extra winter weight a lot easier.  Investing in such pieces is definitely a great idea!  Non-stretch fabrics such as satin, chiffon and even tulle are great options if you’re focusing on giving those unwanted curves less emphasis.  I chose to wear this beautiful floral dress to a friend’s wedding ceremony as it fits less snug around my problem areas (hips and lower belly aka “muffin top” lol) and shifts emphasis toward my middle and neckline creating the illusion of an hourglass body shape.  Remember – with the right outfit you can easily draw the attention to your more flattering areas while you work on getting back into shape.

Wrap Dress:  Young Designers Emporium

Shoes:  Kitibella

Clutch:  New Look

 

Till next time,

Nadine

Dear Time…

​They say in the beginning there was nothing but that’s not true. You were there. And everything else came to be to prove your very existence. The sun in the day and the moon by night rotating to create a cycle that helps us to measure and define you.

Time…

They say you can heal all wounds. As much as I love the hope this cliché brings there are some wounds that even you can not erase and the best we can wish for is that we somehow grow stronger through the pain; that the effect thereof will start to consume us less and less each day. There’s a condition though isn’t there? A fineprint… We have to keep moving with you.

Time…

If it’s one thing I respect you for it’s the ability you possess to move forward no matter what. You never look back.  Never get weary. You never stop to think ‘what if’. You wait for nothing and no one to catch up with you. Like a river that never runs dry.  You do not ask permission or approval. You simply do not care because you don’t need an applause in order to run your race.  Your finish line is unknown to all.  Your pace is as consistent as nothing I’ve ever seen before.  You are self sufficient.

Every step you take sends someone on this planet to their eternal home. Reuniting them with those who have gone before them.

Time…

You are the essence of contradiction. You give and you take away.  You cost me money as you demand I give and then return it to me as I gain in interest.  You’re the difference between a seized moment or missed opportunity; bringing either regret or relief as we wait you out.
You can cause a couple to grow closer to each other or drift further apart with the decisions they make with every breath you take.
You cultivate growth and wisdom but also increase foolishness as we choose not to learn or waste you.

Every day in small moments of you we’re faced with choices: between right and wrong, to go left or right, to love or hate, to move forward or stay the same. The choice between  life or death. And the sum of these choices is our life and defines the person we become.

Time, who is your creator and how are you here? What is your purpose? God, is it You? Are you Time? Alpha and Omega. Beginning and end.

God, is it You?

Author: Nadine Murray

How to love an introvert 

You walk into a room and find your partner sitting on the couch by herself having a cup of tea in complete silence. For the extrovert this picture spells loneliness but for those of a more introversive nature…. that is FREEDOM.

Introverts and extroverts are often viewed in terms of two extreme opposites, but the truth is that most people lie somewhere in the middle.   This is probably because the average person reacts differently based on situations and is able to “adapt” their personality accordingly given the right circumstances, however, each person is either predominantly introvert or extrovert.

Opposites attract

Ever wonder why most of us find ourselves attracted to people unlike us?  If you’re an extrovert chances are you’re married to, dating or close friends with an introvert. And as much as opposites are naturally drawn to one another; loving and happily living together may not come as naturally. It takes work to build a successful relationship when your personalities are worlds apart.  I am an introvert, married to an extrovert. When he says braai, I say movie. But as much as our differences drive each other crazy, the balance he brings to my life keeps me sane.

The Biggest Myth…

The #1 myth of being an introvert is that we don’t like to talk.  Not true at all.  We genuinely enjoy conversation.  But we will however, refrain from voicing an opinion until we know exactly how we feel about and/or have enough knowledge or understanding regarding the topic being discussed.  Until then, we’re happy to simply listen and gather facts.

Don’t assume

Sadly, our silent nature in a social gathering is often misinterpreted as boredom, shyness, depression or some have the idea that you’re stuck up.  I’ve recently come across a few of the latter.  Random strangers whom I’ve only just met (meaning I had my first ever conversation with) saying “I actually thought you were stuck up”. Did I mention that I had just met them? Lol.  It puzzles me how the human mind finds it easy to fill in the blanks about people, their actions, intentions and the worst of all: their motives.  This “misunderstanding” is where many arguments and strive is born. Assumption often leads to misinterpretation and possibly offense.

The Beauty of Silence

Privacy is our comfort and spending some alone time is priceless.  This is when ideas are formed, creativity thrives, thoughts are put into perspective and everything comes together.  In that moment of silence in the midst of the busyness and chaos, is where life starts making sense again.  Sometimes we actually have full blown discussions in our minds jumping to and from topics that if we had to verbalize them at that point you’ll think we’re insane. I’ve tried verbalizing my thoughts while in this space a few times but I end up starting a sentence not realizing that I’ve completed it only in my head lol.  It drives my husband insane because while he’s waiting for “the rest of it” I’m already on “the next part of it” thinking: please keep up!  At this point, just gently slow him/her down and tell them where you got “lost”.

Don’t force it

Don’t put too much pressure on an introvert to share their opinion in a social setting.  You may cause them to withdraw or feel embarrassed as they gasp for words in an effort to make sense.  We make perfect sense to ourselves, in our minds, but we need time to gather our thoughts and bring it across in a manner that makes sense to everyone else.  So the best way to break us out of our shells is to let it happen naturally.  This takes time.  When it does, who knows, we may just end up taking over the conversation.

Want us to open up?

Then listen more and interrupt less.  Often times the reason “quiet people” don’t share more in a group is because they’re bound to be interrupted by an extrovert who feels that we’re not getting to the point fast enough.  Be patient, let them finish.  Trust me: 80% of the time you try to complete his/her sentence, you thought wrong.  If you want an introvert to continuously engage in conversation, then don’t interrupt his/her train of thought while doing so.

Say what?  A speech?

Never, under any circumstance, put an introvert on the spot by calling us to the stage to address a crowd with no prior notice and agreement. No, No, No!  There’s a big chance that it will be a disaster. Being the centre of attention can be daunting so we need a heads up please.  We can be great public speakers however we need to be given a reasonable amount of time to prepare.

A Friend for Life

Quiet, alone time is vital to our well-being but that doesn’t mean we don’t like people. An introvert only has a small circle of close friends and we truly treasure each relationship.  It’s more important to us to build lasting, meaningful relationships with a few people rather than hanging out with large groups all the time. In fact, walking into a party venue filled with 100 strangers can be quite overwhelming so as a friend or partner, please try and stay close for most of the evening.

Lastly…

Introverts are extremely loyal to the people we care about and expect the same in return.  Keeping secrets are quite easy because we tend to think before we speak (most of the time).  Going the extra mile is no train smash, whether you deserve it or not so no need to get suspicious when we’re being “nice” 🙂  We rarely talk about our problems, because it makes no sense to us logically to do so.  Also, because we’re private. We are in no rush to tell you how we’re feeling and we want you to be okay with it.  In fact, your introvert friend or spouse could be going through the biggest hardship he/she has ever faced and you won’t suspect a thing until one day, they have a reason to talk about it.  Be patient.  If you want to do something nice for your friend who’s currently in a bad space: grab her favourite snack and a movie, board game or whatever and go over there.  Unless she’s phsyco, you really don’t have to avoid her lol.  He/she will open up when they’re ready.  Just being there is enough and appreciated more than you realize.

The thing about introverts is that once they’re comfortable with you they can be the funniest, most enjoyable people to be around.  It’s like a secret they feel comfortable sharing with you except the secret is their personality. ~ unknown ~

Dont give up on someone just because they view and react to things differently. It is your differences that brings passion to your relationship, compliments the person you are and makes you a perfect match. Trying to change your partner will change the very reason you’re together in the first place.

May your love conquer all

Nadine

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