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Hope after Heartbreak

Everyone wants to be happy, successful, the person others look up to and someone who has it all together.  But when disaster strikes, this very vision for our lives is crushed, or at least we think it is.

The truth is: Nothing you face in life is big enough to destroy you. Nothing. 

When disaster strikes, the feeling of defeat often feels like an overwhelming rush of uncontrollable hopelessness.  Our heart shattered into pieces.  I’ve had quite a few of these.  Lost a loved one, a failed business venture, disappointed in a relationship etc.  It feels as though your life has come to an end and rebuilding seems an impossible illusion.  Like a vision becoming a fantasy.  In this moment, fear and anger creeps in and depending on your temperament style you will either explode with irrational rage or silently withdraw into a deep depression.  These are all natural human responses to unbearable circumstance.  Should you give in? Certainly not!  There’s always hope after heartbreak.

Take a moment

When you find yourself in a difficult situation, take a moment!  The worst decisions are made in a moment of anger.  I can guarantee 99% of decisions you make, you will regret.  Emotions are temporary, decisions are permanent.  This is why you owe it to yourself to not act until you’ve taken a moment or 2 to calm down, pull yourself together until you have a clear holistic view of your situation.  It won’t be easy but ask God for a spirit of self-control.  Cry, scream, smash something in private if you have to release anger – but don’t find a permanent solution until you’ve dealt with your anger.  In the case of losing a loved one, allow yourself a moment to grieve.

Forgive

The hardest part of heartbreak is forgiveness.  Without this step, there is no way forward.  This is often where many people get stuck.  Forgiving oneself and others involved is the most vital part.  It’s the medicine to your disease, the scar tissue that mends the wound and yes, the scar will not magically disappear but it will be a reminder of how far you’ve come and a testimony to others that they too can be healed.

Be real

Be real about what caused you to fail and don’t deny your part in it.  Identifying and knowing your weaknesses is important step to achieving your goals.  Instead of “why is this happening to me” rather ask “how can I move forward” which brings me to the next step…

Look ahead

Failure is a stepping stone to success.  As cliché as it may sound, it’s true.  You may not see it now but soon you will find a way to smile, laugh and have fun again. Perhaps even laugh about the very thing that made you cry.  But some challenges are vital steps to the next chapter of our lives, the next level of growth and one step closer to our destiny.  The same way we cannot go from Grade 1 straight to high school, there are intermediate levels with lessons to prepare us.  Rome wasn’t built in a day.  As horrible as it may be, failure is necessary.  There is no great success story without a few failed attempts.  Your life is not over.  Make time in your mind to relive the happiest moments of your life, the blessings whether big or small and let those thoughts be the last to occupy your mind before going to bed at night.  Today is just the beginning.  The next steps you take, is the ones that matter.

Take care, and may the next chapter of your life but the most amazing testimony of all.

Love

Nadine

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Going Green on Life

The past year has not been easy.  I’ve been challenged professionally, financially and the most difficult of all – in relationships.  I’ve heard the saying before but only now realize it to be true:  Our hardest tests are in the areas of our lives that matter the most.

As a programmer, I spend long hours “communicating” with a machine, speaking in code, teaching it to think and make decisions based on human input.  Yes for about 40 hours a week, I’m a geek LOL.  In programming, there’s a concept called garbage collection. The garbage collector attempts to reclaim “garbage” (memory occupied by objects that are no longer in use by the program). Without gc a program could eventually exhaust all computer memory causing a program to crash.

Why am I saying all this?

Life can often get so busy. Exhausting actually. So much to do, so little time.  How much of what occupies our mind (thoughts) and time actually adds value to your life?  There’s a profound quote that says: “Your mind is a garden, your thoughts are the seeds. You can either plant flowers or weeds.”  There’s no better thief of ones joy than to fill our minds with worry, stress, fear and negativity.

It may be time to do some garbage collection 🙂

Go green on your life!

Love,

Nadine

Get the look:  Choker top and ripped jeans, Zara. Shoes, Kitibella.

Baby, it’s cold outside!

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So many of us are dreading the cold, pinning for warmer days as do I.  However if we only take a moment we’ll realize that there’s so much to love about this season.  The smell of rich stews and soups to that delicious cup of hot chocolate we unapologetically enjoy during a lazy movie night under a warm blanket. And then there’s those fashion pieces we only get to style for about 3 months in a year. Warm knits, long boots, furry statement coats and scarves.  One can’t help but notice the silver lining.  As in life, although its easy to focus on the negatives let’s take a moment and embrace the good in life, those little blessings that we can be thankful for and before you know it – there comes Spring!

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Get the look:

Dress – Ergo Zen

Shoes – Kitibella

Bag – The Space Baywest – by Amanda Laird Cherry

Stay stylish, stay positive!

Love, N

Harem Love

Hey everyone!

Firstly, my humblest apologies for the silence.  So much has been happening over the past few weeks which I will be sharing all about in due time, starting with my recent involvement with Ergo Zen (EZ).

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Exciting News

I first came across EZ during the Mandela Bay Fashion Week 2016 and fell in love with the soft, quality fabric and unique designs.  EZ was 1 of the 2 winners of the MBFW 2016.  I met Nozuko Ngcizela, EZ’s talented designer/owner a few weeks after the fashion show and shortly thereafter became the official ambassador for her A/W 2017 collection!  The range is currently available at The Space, Baywest Mall and can be purchased on their website http://www.ergozen.space

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About Ergo Zen

Ergo Zen was created out of a passion for soft blended cotton fabric,  the gentle feel and comfort provided to the skin when covered by the fabric and the moisture wicking properties found in the synthetic material used to produce it.  The synthetic material has a peculiar ability to draw moisture away from the skin to the exterior of the clothing where it can be absorbed more easily.

The word “Ergo” means consequently and is also a combining form meaning “work”.  The use of the word “Zen” is within line of promoting an increasingly meditative culture among all human beings.  Ergo Zen Clothing is clothing that works for the individual wearing it and not for the crowd…  Ergo Zen is EZwear

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About This Look

This comfortable yet stylish harem jumpsuit is cut from premium blended cotton.  It is available in a beautiful rust colour perfect for Autumn.  I’ve paired it with nude lace up heels, an oatmeal clutch and a string choker.

Harem Jumpsuit by Ergo Zen, The Space Baywest, R995.

Lace up Gladiators by Kitibella, R595.

Clutch by New Look, R349.

Swarovski crystal stud earrings by Jenni Gault International, R550.

Stay stylish.

Love

Nadine

Over The Knee

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With the recent chilly, wet days we’ve had I thought I’d feature these stunning over the knee boots. They’re a versatile wardrobe item and can be worn with a short dress, long wrap dress, skinny jeans or leggings and even shorts. Nothing tops off a fall outfit quite like a sexy pair of over-the-knee boots to keep you warm and on-trend all in one go!

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Boots by Kitibella: Faux suede Over-the-knee boots

Leather dress, Zara (2016) but I also love these options:

Button/collar leather dress/tunic

Black leather mini dress

Choker: Check out our Choker Edit on this blog.

Wristwear by Lovisa, Walmer Park.

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Local Flair

This past weekend I hosted my very first Kitibella Pop-up Boutique and it was a great success. I thought I’d share some details regarding my look with you.

The Skirt

During my Christmas shopping I stopped by The Space in Baywest Mall and fell inlove with this skirt by local designer Liz Ogumbo the moment I laid eyes on it. It’s such an easy wear and the soft vintage floral is unlike any print I’ve seen before. It reminded me of a painting, I just had to indulge. The Space is a boutique selling garments from South African designers only and their range is absolutely beautiful.  They’re currently having a sale of up to 30% off so get down there! 😉

The Bodysuit

So while I was in The Space I bumped into Nozuko, the designer at Ergo Zen. I recognized her from her collection at the recent Nelson Mandela Bay Fashion Week. Ofcourse I had to introduce myself, but was surprised when she called me on my name! I mentioned to her that I needed a bodysuit for the skirt and she agreed to make one for me 🙂 Ergo Zen was voted the best designer by the judges at the NMBFW and their organic cotton range can be purchased from The Space as well. She also does couture and can be contacted directly.

Skirt: thespace.co.za

Bodysuit: facebook.com/ErgoZen

Choker: Forever New

Earrings: Jenni Gault

10 Things to Throw Away!

It’s the start of a new year and what better time to do a decent closet cleanup. Don’t go through the year hoarding last year’s junk. Here are 10 things to get rid of before the end of January.

1.Worn out Shoes

Let’s start with the biggest one. It’s time to clean up your shoe closet.  If you’ve done 500-800km on those running shoes, your flip flop straps are torn and the nail of your high heels start poking through then it’s time to replace them.  If your shoes are very expensive, resole or reheel them at the local shoe repair shop.  Gently worn shoes can also be donated to charity.

2.  Unmatched Earrings

I don’t know why we keep them, seriously lol.  Unless you’re into the asymmetrical, unmatched earring trend, then it’s time to toss them out.

3.  Clothes that just don’t work

I can understand the need to keep the tight or vintage stuff, it might come in handy again.  But the clothes that just doesn’t compliment your shape, donate donate donate!  You might lose the weight yes but your body shape will never change.  Rather invest in the trends that accentuates your best features and get rid of those that doesn’t.

4.  Promo T-shirts

I often keep promo and old baggy t-shirts for those spring cleaning or lazy couch days.  But here’s the thing:  We don’t need so many of them.  Honestly, 1 will probably do.

5.  Faulty Electronics

If you haven’t fixed that broken toaster or hairdryer for a year, chuck it out!  It’s just taking up space and buying a new one will probably cost you less than a repair anyway.

6.  All Things Expired

Expired store vouchers, beauty products, meds, make-up, hair products, you name it, we keep it!  But it’s time to throw them away.

7.  Worn out underwear

I don’t like throwing my worn out bras in the bin, simply because I’m afraid someone might see it in there lol.  The alternative is worst, keeping them.  They gots to go!

8.  Old Magazines / Scrap wrapping paper

Unless you have kids who need the pictures inside for their school projects, then it’s time to chuck them in the nearest paper recycle bin.  And let’s be honest, how many magazines do they need for projects anyway? Keep in mind the number of magazines that you’ll still be buying within the next 6 months.  And the used gift wrap?  You know you’re going to buy a gift bag anyway, so why hold on to it? Lol

9.  Music we never listen to

Not outdated music.  I’m referring to the ones we just don’t enjoy and never will.  Instead of keeping a cupboard of CDs, you may want to give them to people who are actually into that kind of music.  Hopefully, they won’t play them when you go to visit. Lol

10.  Store Receipts

This is probably my biggest problem.  I have a purse full of ATM withdrawal and store receipts and a hand-full in every bag I own.  I keep receipts in case I need to return my items and end up never throwing them away.

Now, congratulations on all the new space you’ve created in your closet. Feels great doesn’t it?

Till next time…

Nadine

The Choker Edit

It’s no breaking news that the 90s choker is back and I’m absolutely loving it! I loved it then and love it even more now.  Probably more now that I can actually afford to buy my own. LOL.  While shopping over the holidays I found quite a few local stores selling them at various prices/styles to suit every budget/taste and so I thought why not share with you ‘all to help you save time in searching:

  1. Lovisa – Walmer Park (priced from 199 ZAR ).  This store is one of the more expensive options but I love the variety they have on offer.  From simple to super dramatic and unique, they have it all.
  2. Forever New – Walmer Park (priced from 199 ZAR ) Also a nice selection, I bought a cute pink string choker on their 30% off sale.  I paid 139 ZAR.  Happiness!
  3. Zara – Walmer Park (priced from 160 ZAR ).  Zara had a few nice sets where you can get 2 or 3 different styles in a set for under 200 ZAR . (I’m pretty sure it was 160 ZAR for 3).  Now you can imagine my regret after thinking I hit the jackpot at the previous store lol.
  4. Factorie – Baywest Mall (priced from 130 ZAR ).  I was quite impressed with their collection and especially because they had the same chokers for a little cheaper than the other stores with similar stock.
  5. Identity – Baywest Mall (priced from 59 ZAR) Identity’s chokers were well priced but they had limited options, also nice though.
  6. Mr Price – Online (priced from 26 ZAR ).  Mr Price has a plain velvet choker for 26 ZAR, can somebody please scream bargain!!!
  7. Legit had cute, well priced chokers a while ago.  I remember buying 2 on sale for like next to nothing 3 months ago.  I think 30 ZAR each if I remember correctly.  So it might be worthwhile just popping in again to check.

Floral top: Soviet, Baywest Mall. String choker: Forever New, Walmer Park.

    Have fun shopping and let me know what you find by commenting below 🙂

    The Do’s and Don’ts:

    • Do have fun with it.  Chokers are meant to add funk to any look.  It adds an interesting touch to a laid-back outfit.
    • Don’t wear your choker too tight.  The choker length must equal your neck measurement plus 50mm at least for a comfortable fit.
    • Do consider the neckline of your top when wearing a choker.  Chokers work best with off-shoulder, round open necks, buttoned down shirts, v-necklines, boob tubes or one shoulder tops.
    • Don’t wear a choker with a turtle/polo neckline.  The combination is generally not a good idea.
    • Do try different styles and colours by coordinating your outfit.  There are both casual and formal options available in local stores to choose from, a choker for every occasion.
    • Don’t buy a choker before trying it on unless you’re pretty sure of the size and that the style would look best on you.  Certain chokers work better for longer, slender necklines where others will be suitable for shorter necklines as well.  My advice, try it on first and if you’re not sure about the chunky ones, try something simpler.  Chokers work better with heart shaped faces and could make a round face look even rounder.
    • Do try to make your own if you’re on a tight budget but would like to incorporate the trend into your look.  All you need is ribbon, suede string or velvet fabric, a clasp, chain and a fancy pendant if you’d like.  Search for tutorials online (google or youtube videos) on how to make your own choker.  Have fun!

    Here are some looks to assist you in styling your chokers.

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    Till next time…

    Nadine ❤

    10 Shoe Trends for 2017

    There’s been some interesting SS/2017 designs gracing the runway which makes me pretty sure that 2017 will be an exciting year for the fashion industry. I’ve put together a list of trends that I believe will definitely be “sticking around” this year.

    1.  STUDS/RIVETS

    Get ready to see an even bigger variety of studded heals, boots and loafers in stores.

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    2.  BOLD PRINTS

    Bold florals, aztecs, animal prints and more is a definite.

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    3.  TRANSPARENT HEELS

    Clear heels are one of the latest trends at the moment and it will continue to be as we see start to see more options.

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    4.  TRANSPARENT SHOES

    A more stylish take on rain boots, don’t you think? 😉

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    5.  ANKLE STRAPS/TIES

    I’ve noticed more ankle height ties (especially bows) than the calve height ones of 2016. But I think straps, ties & laces are generally still a safe investment going into 2017.

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    6.  BLOCK HEELS

    We’ll definitely be seeing more block heels. Could the block heel be the new stilleto? Lol. I love both either way but time will tell.

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    7.  KITTEN HEELS

    A bigger variety of kitten/medium heel options will be making it’s way into stores as designers are realizing the need for comfort.

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    8.  SPRING BOOTS

    This one I am personally looking forward to. I believe we’ll see some interesting prints, colours and studded boot options.

    9.  METALLICS

    Metallics were high fashion last year and they’re here to stay, for now at least.

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    10. FEATHERS & FRINGE

    Feathers, fringe, pom poms and tassles were hot in 2016 and will definitely be sticking around. Watch this space for some interesting options.

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    These styles (and similar) are available from our store.  Shop online www.kitibella.co.za or email us info@kitibella.co.za if you have something specific in mind.

    Till next time

    Nadine ❤

     

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